On Self Respect

The dismal fact is that self-respect has nothing to do with the approval of others—who are, after all, deceived easily enough; has nothing to do with reputation—which, as Rhett Butler told Scarlett O’Hara, is something that people with courage can do without.

– Joan Didion in On Self Respect, published in Vogue in 1961


With my latest two introductions to “queer” people I’ve come to a conclusion–one that in retrospect, I should have seen all along.

The definition of “queer” is “intimidated by gay people.”